Women Just Don't Get it
By Yael Israel
We, women are different, we have a small brain. We just can't get it. War seems so strange to us. It is far beyond us. It is surreal, something out of this world, most certainly out of our world. When I hear a man talking about his war experiences, I shut myself down and I run to the toilet. The same happens if I try to watch a war film, an action film or anything that has to do with violence: my small brain shuts itself down. I just don’t get it: violence, war, battles. For nearly a month I have been sitting in front of the TV, and frankly, I just don’t get it. It does not seem real to me. How did we get into it? What are we doing there? Why on earth are we fighting? What for? Why? For whom? And the same applies to both sides: us and the enemy. Why? Is it really necessary? Do you really find it necessary?
I guess men believe war is a necessity. That it is indispensable. That it's inevitable. And so on. We, women, even if we get a chance to go to war, we would never go. It's not in our genes. We do not have this drive. We don’t have the need to fight. It’s a known fact that little girls air their aggressions in many ways such as declaring a boycott, humiliating other girls, etc. Yes it sucks, but they will never hit you. Physical violence in women is a fairly new phenomena and it thrives upon the media and computer games. Women who kill are usually drug addicts, hence the violence. Nobody denies the fact that only a very small number of women killed their husbands, while there are tons of men who murdered their wives or girlfriends. Even violence towars their children is less common among mothers then among fathers. I am sure my statements will not please several men and even women who are desperatly seeking a dubious equality with men, even in this realm of violence and making war.
Last week I wrote in my Hebrew blog about Jud Neamaan, the film maker, and quoted him (From an interview in Mahbarot Kolnoa Darom). Basically what he said is that men‘s desire to go to war is the reverse of the penis envy in women, namely: men’s envy our womb. Some of my readers, mainly men, really got angry with me. I understand it pisses you off since I blame you, men, collectively. And perhaps you, my dear reader, reading my words at this very minute, are against violence. I have met a number of such men and not all of them are gay. But the majority take great pleaseure in fighting, upto a point of getting addicted to it.
Here are but a few examples: We have seen daily on the news, men who should not be at the battle field, those rockets fields forever, but still they volunteer to be there, in the midst of hell. We all saw that group of elderly veterans who volounteered to get drafted . If it wasn’t so tragic, it was hilarious, pathetic. Last week we saw several civilians, men who volunteered to extinguish fires in the Galilee, runing here and there under the fire among burning bushes and rockets. Then we saw a group of Jewish firemen from NY who had came to the rescue of the local fire dept. We saw those soldiers who got wounded, grinning at us from the TV, declaring that as soon as they get better, they’ll go back in no time to the war zone. We all saw a men aged 105, who lives on the frontline who spends his days happily on the terrace or running in the streets, counting the rockets with much pleasure.
But if you come to me with words such as: altruism, heroism, etc, I’d laught at your face. Why? Because none of us is an altruist, we all are doing what our hormones and subconciousness dictate us . And by the way, even in the tone of most of the male TV reporters, all those "Roni Daniels", you could hear the excitement, the intoxication, as if their Adrenalin is gushing forth. Yes, its about time you, men, face it. In times of danger, you get addicted to the Adrenaline which gushes forth. We, on the other hand have no wish to endanger our lives. Why should we die for nothing?
And now, when the rockets seem closer and closer to me, I am sitting in my little coasy home in Tel Aviv, enjoying my peace and quiet and I just don’t get it, why should I, a women with a small brain, have to pay the price of men’s bloody desire to take risks and go to war.